a friend of mine requested that i explain how all the paper work for the baby after birth works. ill just explain everything that we have planned for after birth just to cover any and all questions.
so after the baby is born we plan that Anna will be staying at the hospital with me until I'm released. its such a small room and i know the chair that they have in there is so uncomfortable that i don't know how that will work. when i stayed with ridge in the hospital when he had RSV i made a cot on the floor lol cause that chair is ridiculously uncomfortable! anyways i wont be able to sign my rights over until 3 days after the baby is born. the reason being is cause i would have to sign my rights over to rick since he is the biological father and then Anna will have to go through a process for step parent adoption since the baby is not biologically related. they make you wait for three days cause i guess back in the day moms who were planning on putting their baby up for adoption would sign the papers right away but then come back and fight it saying that they were "hormonal" and not able to make rational decisions. so now by law the mother is allowed 3 days to make her final decision. at this point we will have a lawyer come in and go over the paper work and at the end of the 3 days ill sign my rights over. legally my name and ricks name will be on the birth certificate. Anna has to go through classes and have a social worker come check her out before she can begin the adoption process. this is so silly to me...cant i just chooses who i want? i guess it just doesn't work that way. anyways. the baby can then go home with rick and Anna. we all plan on staying in touch. we have already went over what i expect for minimal contact like pictures once a month, year etc letters, and updates etc. and then we when over what would be ideal for me. we have already become friends so obviously if we ever hang out, go to dinner or what not i would see the baby. i plan on staying friends with Anna and rick and I'm not so concerned on whether i see the baby or not. as unattached as that sounds its the truth. the only reason that i would want picks or updates is that with it being biologically half mine i still have that emotion that i want o know that she is safe and happy and i would love to see what she looks like as she gets older compared to mine and Nathans kids. for the first month i requested that IF i feel at the time that i need closure then i would like to see the baby more often in the month of December. i wont know how i feel, i might end up wanting nothing to do with her, i can see it going either way.
well i hope i answered my friends questions =)
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